Jillz Guerin: How To Be a SOFTER WOMAN *without losing who you are*

How To Be a SOFTER WOMAN *without losing who you are*

1. You first have to start within.

You have to start being soft to yourself, and have a soft inner dialogue.

When you change the internal, the external naturally comes along with it.

How are you speaking to yourself?

Create that inner softness within.

2. Let down your defences.

Do you get defensive easily?

To be a softer woman, you need to be able to let down these defences sometimes.

Get into the mindset that you don't need to prove anything to anyone, and that you are loved because of who you are.

3. Embrace vulnerability.

You should be able to open up, and show that emotion.

Not being afraid to show these emotions is one way that we soften.

A soft woman embraces these waves of emotions, and lets herself feel grief, or anger, or overwhelm, or happiness, or joy, or excitement, or whatever it is, and isn't afraid to let it out.

We don't need to hide our emotions.

Letting that vulnerability come through sometimes is one way that we soften.

4. Slow down.

Not everything is a race, and not everything is about achievements and hustle.

You don't have to rush.

This allows your nervous system to relax a bit, and feel more calm, and centred.

Be present in the task that you are doing.

Slowing down and being present will automatically make you feel like a softer woman.

5. Soften your body.

Your body and your mind are interconnected.

What happens in the mind, happens in the body, and vice-versa.

Let your body relax.

6. Conflict doesn't need to be tense.

Conflict can actually be a very healthy thing sometimes.

Challenge yourself to soften.

It is doable.

It's usually just someone feeling hurt.

7. Have empathy for others.

We do have to have boundaries, but it's good and healthy to have empathy for others.

You can see that any sort of unnecessary lashing out at you, it oftentimes boils down to a feeling of hurt or pain, and it's a reflection of something going on within themselves.

8. You have to be able to trust.

Trust that life is working out for you.

Trust that God or Universe is on your side, and is protecting you.

A lot of this hardness comes from a feeling of unsafety.

To live your happiest best life, you have to learn when to let go.

You have to learn when to surrender.

You have to learn to trust.

Sometimes not trying to control everything is one of the most powerful things that you can do, and this trust, this surrender is what's really gonna bring this softness out of you.