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Emotional Intelligence: Control and Responsibility

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Setting Boundaries for Healthy Relationships : Counselor Carl

If you didn't learn to set boundaries in childhood, then you'll have to learn to do so as an adult because without healthy boundaries, you can't possibly know who you are or how to take care of yourself in relationships.

Learning to create healthy boundaries begins by, turning your antenna inward, so you can practice identifying your feelings and needs, and then take full responsibility for getting them met.

You also must learn to let go of feeling responsible for the needs and feelings of other adults, because that responsibility, belongs to them.

This process of learning to set healthy boundaries will allow your True Self to emerge, which is an essential key to recovery from childhood dysfunction.

Healthy boundaries are like a fence around your house to keep you safe.

As you practice setting healthy boundaries, all your relationships will improve.

Love Language

http://drbenkim.com/articles-lovelanguage.html

Rang Holi :)

Happy Rang Holi!!!
I made dahi-bade today!!!
Sis n brother-in-law had come...

Holi @ LB

Happy Holi :)

Happy Holi!!!
MIL, husband & me went to Holika (MIG) for Holi pooja at around 12:20pm

Mom called, tauji (bhopal) called...

p.s.: Both the helpers are on leave tomorrow. (Rang) Holi hai...

Holi @ LB

People / Relationships / Healthy Boundaries

Relationships & Boundaries

Relationships and Healthy Boundaries go hand in hand. Healthy Boundaries give structure to relationships. They help set up a framework to give us the opportunity to have a more communicative, loving, healthy relationship. Any relationship that you have needs to have Healthy Boundaries.
1. Mother
2. Spouse
3. Sister
4. Father
5. Brother
6. Mother-in-law
7. Friend
8. Extended family member/cousin
....
....

p.s.: Know that by setting Boundaries and being assertive about it, you're not only protecting yourself but you're also protecting the other person from a future potential fight or maybe silent treatment whatever unhealthy coping skill comes out of a boundary being crossed, you're protecting each person from that. And only with a set of Healthy Boundaries can a relationship flourish and grow.
http://eyesoftanushree.blogspot.in/2016/03/kati-morton-creating-maintaining.html

lunch & dinner

Sudha Auntie (cook) is on leave today. I prepared khichdi in afternoon. Abhishek prepared pulao in the evening. Thank u God.

Byron Katie - Oprah Soul Series Interview

Weekend - Movie

We (husband & me) saw 'Piku' today on sony tv (lunch onwards).

Android Development - Android Data Persistence

I just completed the course 'Android Data Persistence' on Treehouse. Thank u to my teacher Evan. In the process I learned about File Storage, Shared Preferences (key-value pairs of data), SQLite database, CRUD operations(4 basic operations: create, retrieve, update, delete)& Migrating a SQLite database. I got to learn a lot & write a good amount of code. I feel happy, grateful & blessed.

5 Lessons on Living a Long, Healthy Life, from a 90-Year-Old

Full Article: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-lessons-on-living-a-long-healthy-life-from-a-90-year-old/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+tinybuddha+%28tinybuddha%29

Parents-in-law

My parents-in-law came here yesterday evening from Agota.
Today I went with them to the dermatologist.

Setting PATH variable on Mac

Vim editor commands
http://www.radford.edu/~mhtay/CPSC120/VIM_Editor_Commands.htm

http://stackoverflow.com/questions/10303639/adb-command-not-found

God

Simplicity, minimalism, zen...

Reminder

1. Caring for my health n spirituality.
2. Managing home.
3. Being there for family n few friends.
4. Developing softwares (professionally).
5. Dancing.

The Science of Productivity

Informative & useful: work well, sleep well, live well.



1. Get started.
(Start the project.)
2. Deliberate practice.
3. Give yourself a deadline.
4. Create an accountability chart to document your progress.
5. Split up your large tasks into smaller bite-sized ones.

With a clear goal and action-plan in mind your productivity levels can soar to new heights.

Find Divyansh

Dear God, Please help find Divyansh (Divy) and bring him back to his parents safely.

Allow the light to come in

Kati Morton - Exercise!

1:35 to 4:55



1. Taking care of our bones
2. Listening to our body
3. All in moderation

Kati Morton - How to Build a Better Body Image!

1:38 I want you to jot down things that you like about yourself.
5:40 These are things we need to do periodically.
"I love myself..."

Stress Management Strategies: Ways to Unwind

0:50 to 4:35

How to Identify Your Stress Triggers

Marriage - Arjun bhaiya

We (husband & me) are going to attend Arjun Bhaiya's marriage tomorrow.

Assertiveness Techniques

1. "I statement"

2. Replace questions with statements
Your goal is to reveal, not conceal.
Verbalize what you want.

3. Learn Healthy Complaining.

ps: Assertiveness requires healthy boundaries. We have to know ourselves and what our boundaries are in order to assert them.

Kati Morton - How can I fight my bad thoughts at night?

4:30 to 5:45

Adriene - Yoga at Your Desk

Adriene - Quick Stress Fix - 5 Minute

Kati Morton - Taking a break and Personal Boundaries

This is kind of boundary for yourself, for self-care.

Android Development - Android Lists and Adapters

Yesterday, I completed the course 'Android lists and adapters' on Treehouse. Thank you to my teacher Ben. He is really good. I got to learn new concepts and ways. And thank you to my cool husband who told me about Treehouse.
This also means that I completed developing the three-page Android App 'Stormy'. In the process, I used a third-party API (Forecast API), learned parsing JSON, learned networking (getting data from the web), using Listview, using Recycler view.
And I got to write a good amount of code.
I feel grateful, blessed :)

okhttp - http://eyesoftanushree.blogspot.in/2016/02/android-notes.html

Building 'Stormy':
1. First we need the URL from forecast. After login, copy your personalized URL.
2. Create an OkHttpClient object.
3. Build a request that the client will send to the server (forecast).
4. Put this request inside a Call object. We have a request wrapped up in a call.
5. Execute the call. The execute method returns a response object.
6. Check whether network is available or down, using an Android class called ConnectivityManager, and NetworkInfo class.

Errors: 1. NetworkOnMainThread error.
2. Permission denied: Missing Internet Permission.

p.s.: Attaching one of the snapshots below.

Kati Morton: How can I manage / control my ANGER?

Kati Morton: How do I handle burnout? #KatiFAQ

3:15 (esp. 3:44) to 7:23

Kati Morton: Why is structure important in life?

What charges my batteries?

1. Sleeping.
2. Listening to songs (sometimes silently, sometimes singing along, sometimes moving or dancing with it).
3. Watching comedy and smiling/giggling/laughing/laughing out loud.
4. Reading good things (eg. Hanuman Chalisa, Tao Te ching) / Writing good things (eg. Gratitude, Prayer)
5. Being with / talking to a loved one.
6. Walking / Sitting in a lawn/terrace/park/garden.
Notice how you feel. Notice if it helps you feel re-charged.
Take care. You're worth it.

Kati Morton - Personal Boundaries: 5 ways to teach people how to treat us properly!

1. Notice when we reinforce bad behaviour.

2. Recognize that you have the right to walk away.

3. Understand that we have the right to say NO, if something is not in our best interest.

4. Recognize that we have insight about unhealthy relationships and we can act on that.

5. Stick with it!
4:45 Think to yourself: "Is it more important that other people like me or that I like me?"
And that's where true compassion, true love, true life comes from is self-respect.
Respecting who you are. Recognising your strengths. And taking time to notice those, to write those things down. Taking time to recognise what's so wonderful and great and unique about you because everyone has those things, and once we begin this process, stick with it, because I'll tell you this, you're worth it.
"I love myself..." 
"I respect myself..."

Kati Morton - Creating & Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Creating & Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

1. Observe.
What you are feeling is your own body’s natural set of boundaries.

2. Be clear & direct. Be assertive.
We have to let people know.
http://eyesoftanushree.blogspot.in/2016/03/assertiveness-techniques-these-are-only.html

3. Give urself permission to set & maintain healthy boundaries.
Know that it’s all in the best interest of the relationship.

4. Get outside support. Keep being assertive.
It’s important for us to have other people in our lives who are there for support.

5. Practice Self-care.
Make sure you are setting aside time for yourself so that you have the energy to create and maintain these new healthy boundaries.

p.s.: Know that by setting Boundaries and being assertive about it, you're not only protecting yourself but you're also protecting the other person from a future potential fight or maybe silent treatment whatever unhealthy coping skill comes out of a boundary being crossed, you're protecting each person from that. And only with a set of Healthy Boundaries can a relationship flourish and grow.

Kati Morton - 5 easy steps to build your Self-Confidence

5 easy steps to build your Self-Confidence

1. Personal Grooming
Groom yourselves.
Wear a nice outfit.

2. Think Positively.
Notice.
'I can.'
'I am amazing.'

3. ACT Positive.
Fake it till you make it.

4. Get prepared.

5. Set SMALL goals.

Thank you Ms. Kati Morton :)

People I follow / Mentors

Personal Development videos from my mentors:

Top 5 Inspiring Videos:

1. How You Can Have The Best Year Ever
2. Overcoming FEAR
3. Why Your Critics Aren't The Ones Who Count
4. A Conversation with Louise Hay
5. Self-compassion matters more than self-esteem

(updated: Dec '19)
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Top 5 Channels / Mentors:

1. Terri Savelle Foy

2. Jillz Guerin

3. Julie Hanks

4. Teal Swan

5. Simple Happy Zen (Vera)

6. Gaur Gopal Das

7. Rachel Talbott

8. Evan Carmichael
9. Developer Tea - Jonathan Cutrell

(updated: 14.5.24)
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I. WELL-BEING

Spiritual Support:

1. Gaur Gopal Das (Life, Monk ISKCON Mumbai)

2. Dandapani (Life, New York City)

3. Louise Hay (Healing, Personal development; San Diego CA)

4. Carol Tuttle (Chakras, Energy Profiling; Lehi UT)

Emotional Support (esp. setting boundaries, and being assertive):

1. Julie Hanks (Emotions&Feelings, Personal development; Salt Lake City UT) - Mentor

2. Counselor Carl (Emotional health, Maryland)

3. Kati Morton (Health-mental&physical, Personal development; Santa Monica CA)

4. Brene Brown (Research Professor, Houston TX)

Physical Support:

1. Cooking

2. Top 10 Meals (my cooking)

3. Shweta Kanojia (Dance/Zumba, Fitness, Noida)

4. Adriene Mishler (Yoga, Health; Austin TX)

II. PROFESSION & EDUCATION

Motivational Support:

1. Terri Savelle Foy (Dreams&Goals, Personal Development; Rockwall TX) - Mentor

2. Evan Carmichael (Inspiration, Personal Development, Toronto Canada) -Mentor

3. Robin Sharma (Work, Personal Development; Toronto Canada)

4. Brian Tracy (Goals, Personal Development, Solana Beach CA)

Software Development support:

1. Developer Tea - Jonathan Cutrell (Chattanooga TN) - Mentor

III. LEISURE

1. TV shows

2. Dance videos

3. Bollywood songs videos

IV. HEALTHY LIFESTYLE

1. Cambria Joy (CA)

2. Rachel Talbott (suburb near Los Angeles CA)

3. Simple Happy Zen (by Vera, Netherlands)

4. Pick Up Limes (by Sadia, Netherlands)

5. Brittany Vasseur (La Jolla CA)

6. Self-Care Videos

7. Self-Discipline Videos

8. Relaxing Videos

9. Empath Resources

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Talks:

TED Talks
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Misc:

a. The Science of Productivity
b. The 9 BEST Scientific Study Tips

c. Assertiveness Techniques [<3 <3]
d. 5 Phrases for Becoming Assertive

e. Setting Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

f. Stress Management Strategies: Ways to Unwind
g. How to Identify Your Stress Triggers

h. Minimalism | Where to Start
i. Believe in Yourself : Nick Vujicic
j. Do not crave for recognition
k. Why Your Critics Aren't The Ones Who Count : Brené Brown [<3 <3]

l. Dr. Brené Brown on Joy
m. Holding Onto History, You Could Lose Your Destiny
n. Eckhart Tolle Reveals How to Silence Voices in Your Head
o. Michael Bernard Beckwith: "That Which Is For You Will Come To You"
p. Dr. Wayne Dyer Shares How He Practiced the Tao
q. How to Separate the Voice in Your Head from the Real You

r. Plan to Succeed in 2017 | How to Reach Your Goals : Shannon Sullivan [<3 <3]
s. 4 Mindset Changes That Massively Improved My Life : Thomas Frank [<3 <3]
t. How to STUDY When You DON'T FEEL LIKE IT! [<3 <3]
u. MAKE TIME FOR EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO DO : Amy Landino [<3 <3]
v. Do this 5 Minutes before sleep! - Dr. Wayne Dyer [<3]
w. DIY Vision & Inspiration Board - Achieve Your Goals 2017 : Raclelleea
x. How To Avoid Running Late For School - Back To School Tips : Rachelleea

Winter - Green grapes

Ate some sweeeeet green grapes today. Thank u God :)

Weather (season-cycle)

Weather is changing. Kitchen mein halki dhoop aane lagee hai... :)