Overthinking: How Improving The QUALITY Of Our Thoughts Can Fix QUANTITY Errors
When I find myself overthinking something, I stop and ask myself, “Do I know very specifically what the problem I am dealing with is?”
How do I cope right now with the feelings of anxiety that come up for me when I think about how uncertain the future is?
What can and cannot be known?
How you’re feeling?
We can know for sure how we’re feeling.
We don’t have enough information to arrive at an educated answer to as it stands.
This is one of those instances where going out into the world, and seeking more relevant information that we can be sure is reliable and true is going to help us.
Sometimes that means taking some action, and then thinking about it again.
1. It’s really helpful to understand where this wounded feminine energy is coming form, and what created it. You can consciously choose every single day to let this go. It’s time to start reframing those beliefs around your feminine energy, and transform them into something more positive and supportive.
2. Surround yourself with other healthy feminine women. Every woman needs a strong, healthy woman support system. It is one of the best ways to recharge your feminine energy battery. It’s super revitalising. It is one of the best ways to heal that wounded energy. You become who you surround yourself with. If you want to be a healthy feminine woman, then surround yourself more with other healthy feminine women. The women you want to try and stay away from are those who just criticise other women, and just bring other women down, and women who struggle to maintain women friendships. They are usually wounded.
3. It is critical that you start putting yourself first, and prioritise taking care of yourself. This is something that’s really important to feminine energy. You matter, and you are important, and you have to start showing yourself this love. Any sort of self-care is such a simple and easy way to show that we value ourselves. When we start valuing ourselves and loving ourselves, we start expecting this from others too, like we should be. And we start truly nourishing ourselves, this gives us the capacity to nourish others too.
4. Stop focusing on what others think, stop living our lives for other people, and stop seeking validation. Common problem with this wounded feminine energy is this people-pleaser mentality, and not being able to stand up for themselves and what they want. What people think of you, is quite frankly, none of your business. A healthy feminine woman is secure in her needs, wants, and desires.
5. It’s time to start saying ‘No’ to what doesn’t serve you and what doesn’t feel right.
6. Let go of or get yourself away from toxic situations or toxic people. Surround yourself with healthy situations, and healthy people as best as you can.
7. Embrace joy. For eg. take in that meal, and just feel how good it is, take a moment to smell the flowers and fully take them in. Being comfortable feeling joy and embracing joy is a really healthy trait of the feminine energy. So doing these things throughout your day can really help you bring out that side of you more.
We all have our own energetic range, with what we are comfortable and familiar with.
And you can think about this energetic range, as like a temperature range you sit at.
We can have our own energetic range for money, we can have our own energetic range for love, for health, for career, for home life, for literally anything.
The way that our subconscious mind works is that it naturally gravitates toward what we are familiar with, with that internal temperature setting, because that is all it knows. The subconscious mind loves familiarity. It thrives off of familiarity.
It knows exactly what to expect.
Even if what's familiar is not that great, that familiarity makes us comfortable.
That's our internal temperature setting.
We can do this in so many different ways, we don't even realise it's self-sabotage.
The problem is that this subconscious temperature setting, if we don't become conscious and aware of it, will rule our life. And most of us don't even realise that we have these limits.
Self-sabotage often disguises itself as those upper limiting behaviours, not letting you go past that internal temperature setting.
But once you become of aware of it, you can start to conquer and move past that. It's the first step.
How to start shifting the thermostat on your life, so that you can start truly leveling up your life
1. You need to start bringing conscious awareness to these upper limit moments. Notice the moments in your life where things are feeling good.
And then notice when things start to shift.
Be an observer.
Just notice what happens that brings you back down. Why does that good feeling go away? And notice your limiting beliefs. Notice where you are not comfortable in your life with things being good, notice where you keep hitting walls. Once you become the observer of your world, you will start to notice these things. You can’t shift what you aren’t aware of.
12:10 Be the observer of your world. Be the observer of your mind.
2. Slowly and gently start pushing those limits. Allow yourself to experience more.
Notice that resistance, so you can move past it, and stay in that good feeling zone. You are training your body, your mind, your subconscious mind, to expand your capacity for goodness.
Slowly increasing that temperature.
You need to learn how to gently expand your comfort zone. If you’re stuck at a lower temperature all the time, it’s because that is your current comfort zone, that’s what your nervous system is used to. Imagine your nervous system as the control panel of your internal thermostat. To increase the temperature, we have to start training our nervous system to slowly start becoming comfortable and familiar with that next level. We have to crank the dial on our comfort zone. When you are in those next level moments, and you feel your nervous system starting to react, starting to resist, you have to learn how to calm it. You can do this with things like body awareness, breath work, mindfulness, self-compassion, self-understanding.
The main questions are:
a. How can you hold on to those good feelings as long as you can?
b. How can you slowly start to increase your capacity for experiencing the good, for experiencing that next level?
This is going to look different for everyone.
When things start to become easy, or easier, work on holding that and leaning into it. Make an intentional effort, a conscious effort to regulate your nervous system in that scenario, and lean into it.
3. You need to decide who that next level version of you is, that higher temperature setting, and shift your self-concept to meet that. The way that you view yourself has to change.
What does look like?
How does she show up?
What are her habits?
What are her beliefs?
What does she think about?
How does she spend her time?
Act like her. Shifting your self-concept is a lot easier to do, when you do it from a fun and playful place.
Start to get comfortable there. This has to be an active conscious process, or else it won’t happen.
4. Who you are around and who you are exposed to can either push your temperature limits up or push them down. It’s about being intentional with your time and energy and who you give that to, who you give access to yourself. Everyone also needs expanders.
If it's possible for them, it's possible for you. Find people in real life or online who have done what you want to do. Let them expand what you think is possible. Let them raise your internal temperature set point.
So the question is, how good are you willing to let it get? Because this is a choice. It’s all about your willingness to make the change, step into the uncomfortable, and expand your comfort zone. You have the power to redefine what’s possible for yourself, and it all begins with your willingness to put in the effort and have that conscious awareness so you can start increasing the thermostat of your life.
How to Build Your DREAM BUSINESS in Your Feminine Energy
1. Lean into what you're good at.
How can you provide value in a way that feels easy, feels natural to you? Everybody is good at something. A lot of times we don’t realise that we are good at something, because that something comes so naturally to us, that we assume it must come naturally to everyone else too.
2. If you want to stay softer, and be in your feminine energy, you also need to be thinking about the lifestyle you are building. While you are building a business, you need to ask yourself all the time, ‘Is this business building a lifestyle I love or a lifestyle I hate?’ You have to be really honest with yourself about this.
I think it is very important to find expanders for yourself.
Your business is meant to work for you, not the other way around.
3. Allow it to be an intuition-led business. Our intuition is one of our strengths.
It can get you far, and make things a whole lot easier.
4. The Pareto principle, also known as the 80/20 rule.
80% of the output is a result of just 20% of the input. What is actually driving the business forward?
Focus on that.
Simplify.
Don't try to do everything at once.
If you try to do everything, you'll end up doing nothing well.
5. Work with your cycle, not against it. Your health, your happiness, and your business will be better off for it.
6. Gratitude Gratitude will keep you in your feminine energy.
It will keep you feeling softer, and relaxed. Affirm: I am grateful that my community is finding me. Affirm: I am grateful that I am attracting in like-minded people.
I would make sure that I felt gratitude for what I already have. This takes you out of stress mode, and puts you in the receiving mode.
This takes you out of the rat race of constantly needing more and more. If you stay in a state of receiving, and high vibes, you will attract in more, you will attract in more high vibrational things.
7. The fastest way to build a business is not always the best way.
If you want to create your dream business, and still love your life, have a soft life, you have to build that business with full alignment, and integrity, you cannot sacrifice that, even if it takes a little bit longer to do so.
How to *actually* QUANTUM LEAP (and change your reality)
What is Quantum Leaping? A quantum leap is where you move from one state to another, or one reality to another. Where you feel like you are moving or leaping into another reality. There are many different realities that can exist at the same time. All of these timelines, they exist at different frequencies. To quantum leap, and change your life, you need to step into her, her reality, her timeline, her frequency.
How do I step into her? The Universe communicates through energy. In other words, it’s our vibration and our frequency that matters. If our desired self, and our desired reality already exists, but at a different frequency, all we have to do, is tap into that frequency, to tap into that desire, or that reality. That is all quantum leaping is. It’s leaping into another frequency, so you can enter another reality.
How to tap into the frequency of your desired self? Why this shifts your reality? Part-1 If frequency is so very important for quantum leaping and manifesting your desires, so what determines your frequency? And it’s simple, your thoughts and beliefs. Whatever your thoughts and beliefs are, they will shift your energy, they will shift the way that you feel, and it will shift your frequency. This is scientifically proven. Every single emotion has a different frequency to it. Energy is the language of the Universe. Different thoughts have different vibrational frequencies. Thoughts are energy, feelings are energy, everything is energy. If you want to step into your desired self, your desired reality, you have to tap into that frequency, which means, you need to take on the thoughts, and beliefs, and feelings of that desired self. That is very important.
Part-2 99% of the time quantum leaping is also going to require us to take action. It’s not only about alignment, it’s also about action. We need both of those pieces. When you’re vibrating at a certain frequency, that is when you’ll receive the inspiration, the intuitive nudges, the impulses to do the things you need to do to create the reality you want.
When you're in the frequency of your dream self, when you're in the frequency of what you want, that is when you'll receive the direction on how to turn it into reality.
Being in the frequency, allows you to pick up on the how. If you want to receive the best creative ideas and solutions, you have to be tuned in to the right frequency to receive them. Being at the right energy and the right frequency is the first step towards getting to where you want to go. The feeling comes first. The internal world has to shift first, before the external reality is going to start changing. Stop overly focus on the how, and just start focusing on the feeling and the frequency, and eventually that how is gonna come to you. If you change your, thoughts + beliefs -> frequency -> actions -> reality. And that is how quantum leaping works.
How to actually do this?
1. Get clear on what you want. Sit with that, and daydream about that version of yourself, the version of you that has what you want.
Think about her internal world, not so much her external world. That’s living in another timeline. How does she feel? What does she believe? What are stories that she tells herself? What are the thoughts that she chooses to think, and that she chooses to believe? That is the energy you’re going to tap into. Don’t get caught up in the desire. By focusing on the feeling, and the frequency of the desired self, not the outcome of the desired reality. Stay focused on the feeling, and the frequency.
2. Normalise the reality you want. That has to feel normal to you. You have to normalise it, before actually having it. To get into the frequency, you have to normalise it. If you want to quantum leap, you have to normalise whatever you want. The reality you want, and the timeline you want to shift into, it has to feel normal and ordinary to you, not to anyone else, but to you.
How do I normalise something I don’t have?
a. You have to use the power of your imagination, and you have to visualize it. You rehearse it over and over again in your mind, until it starts to feel real, until it starts to feel normal. It feels normal. It feels ordinary. It’s just another day. You want to feel calm, and at peace.
b. By changing your point of reference, and changing what you observe, and what you are exposed to. Because it changes what you view as normal and ordinary. You need to oversee that reality as much as you can. Quantum physics says that nothing is really real until you observe it. So if you desire a certain reality, you need to observe that reality as much as you can. Expose yourself to what you want. Observe it. The more you observe it, the more normal it feels.
3. Focus on what you do want.
I feel so healthy. I am so grateful for it. Think about that desired reality, that desired self, that desired frequency, and how you want to feel, and mentally stay there. This is what is energetically going to pull you into that other timeline.
4. You can only become that which you believe. You can only quantum jump to a self and a reality, in which you truly believe deep down is possible for you. The ladder approach.
5. Softness and ease will get you farther than force ever will. That detachment creates a sense of ease and calm and softness in your body. Extreme effort and force can almost keep you stuck. To quantum jump you need to relax, you need to be a little bit playful with it. Focus on the fun of getting into the frequency and the feeling of your desire, and take aligned action from there. Once you are in the frequency, you’ll then receive the energetic direction to get you to where you want to go.
How to speed up this process? Frequency -> -> -> Desired reality There will be at least a little bit of this awkward in between. But this can be significantly shortened or widened based off of:How you feel. The thoughts you choose to think, and listen to. What action you do and do not take during this period. And that is up to you.
There are infinite versions of us that we can tap into, infinite realities and timelines that we can shift into, but it all first starts with a frequency, it starts first with energetic alignment. So the question is, what do you have the energetic capacity to align with, and how high will you allow yourself to go?
