How to Deal with Change | Kati Morton

Managing Change:

1. We need to acknowledge that change is part of life.
It's important that we try to recognize and accept that change is always happening.
Some of it we have control over, but most of it we don't.

2. We have to allow ourself to feel our emotions.
We have to let ourselves feel the loss, upset, anger, sadness, or whatever it is that you maybe feeling. Give yourself time to feel it. Talk about it, journal about it, complain to a friend, therapist, or family member about it. Try and keep this venting, feeling time focused on how you feel now. Let's try to stay focused in the present, and what's happening now. Stay in the present as much as you can.

3. Write down the story we will tell ourselves.
Take some time to write it all out. No judgement, just be honest with yourself and your process.
This can be another way to get into our grief, or upset, or sadness, or even excitement, and figure out where it's coming from, and we're really telling ourselves about it.

4. Write out the story you want to have.
Write out the story you want to have about this loss, or change.
We're only able to tell certain types of stories, and that can limit our ability to overcome any change, upset, or even stop us from seeing our life clearly.
So spend some time on this tip. Consider how you would like to view this change.

5. Increase our self-care.
Think of anything in your life that brings you the slightest bit of joy, gets you excited, or helps you feel better.
Work in at least one of these things into your daily routine.

Remember, that it's actually less about the change that is happening, and more with how we think about it.
So, notice if your thoughts are pulling you in a direction that you don't want to go, or telling you a very filtered version of your story.

It's the brittle trees that break in the windstorm, while the flexible bamboo can ride it out and bend when it needs to.

Life is constantly changing in big and small ways.