Emotional Intelligence, Grief, and Two Kinds of Emotional Pain : Counselor Carl

Emotional pain has two faces. First, there is the pain of loss. The second kind of emotional pain is caused by resisting the pain of loss.

So, losses cause emotional pain, and grieving is the process we go through to overcome the resistance to accepting the loss.

Thus, the ability to grieve is possibly the most important skill of emotional intelligence.

Loss is inevitable. So, if we expect life to always go our way, we will be miserable. Skillfully accepting life's losses is the path to serenity.