Love Yourself, Accept Yourself, Forgive Yourself : tiny buddha

Love Yourself, Accept Yourself, Forgive Yourself

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia 

You mean I am a source of many wonderful things?

Yes. Actually you are. Own up to it.

Leo has it right.

1. Love yourself.

Despite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, love yourself. Love yourself.

Tattoo it on your brain.

I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself, but here’s just one: It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves.

I spent many years being anorexic and feeling like I was a monster. I’m sure I was not much fun to be around and I also know that I didn’t book any of the acting jobs I was trying to land. It is very challenging to hire someone or love someone who fights you by holding up a mirror of hatred toward themselves.

Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in 10 years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. Be amazed now.

2. Forgive yourself.

3. Be good to yourself. Do things that you inspire you daily.

Make a list. Grab your iPad or your notepad or even your hand and draw up a list of things you can do today to make you feel good.

My list involves a lot of laughing. My “Feel Good” list also has: my yoga practice, teaching yoga classes, writing, a long leisurely dinner with friends, having a great glass of wine, staying up all night reading a book I cannot put down, being with kids who have special needs and teaching them yoga, poetry, Modern Family, skyping with my nephews, and the list goes on.

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9 Essential Self-Care Steps for the Over-Committed Idealist:

Fortunately, there are things that Idealists can do to maintain the balance between helping people and looking after themselves, without giving up their potential.

1. Spend time alone

2. Exercise

3. Meditate

4. Learn to say ‘no’

Establishing clear boundaries is critical if you are to value yourself and your own needs.

5. Surround yourself with positive people

While Idealists are committed to helping others, they also need someone to believe in them. Be sure to surround yourself with supportive people who won’t take advantage of you and who will validate your feelings. As much as you want to help, negative environments and negative people can be damaging for the sensitive Idealist, so try to avoid them whenever possible.

6. Write in a journal

7. Take up a project

8. Learn to accept criticism

Instead of seeing criticism as an attack, try to see it as an opportunity to learn something. Sometimes negative feedback can offer you the insight you wouldn’t have seen yourself. And if the criticism is not helpful, let it go. Remember, no one is perfect and you don’t have to be either.

9. Look after yourself

Perhaps the most important tip for Idealists is to take time to think of themselves. It’s also the hardest. Idealists automatically look for ways to alleviate suffering; tending to their own needs can feel like they’re being selfish. But, just as flight attendants will tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before you help your child, you need to look after yourself before you can help anyone else.

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What To Do When Your Personality Is Extraverted But Your Life Isn’t:

As you begin to feel increasingly drained, allow me to introduce you to an Extravert Survival Guide for the low-social-interaction periods of life.

1. Eat lunch with a co-worker you know

2. Join a group fitness class

3. Volunteer for group-related activities

4. Call your old friends

If you move away for work or school, life can be especially isolating at first. However, your excess alone time gives you the opportunity to Skype old friends and family. We often let our long-distance friendships fade because we’re too busy cultivating new relationships during our free time. However, your situation allows you to easily maintain old relationships even if you don’t see them every day. “Make new friends, but keep the old. Those are silver, these are gold.” Sensitive and intelligent man that Joseph Parry.

5. Discover how awesome time to yourself is
If you’re flying solo for the first time ever, the Universe is presenting you with an opportunity for self-discovery and emotional growth—or the opportunity to binge watch Doctor Who all night without ear buds, which I’d like to think is the same thing. Although we learn about ourselves through relationships, we also learn a lot about ourselves when we’re alone. The list of healthy solo activities is endless: long nature walks, meditation, all the movies you wanted to watch when everyone voted for something else.

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Subtle grief occupies the times between periods of acute grief when we are functioning once again, but the shadow of loss is always at our side.

Eventually, however, we may come to realize that we're dealing with something we may have never experienced before - living life through the prism of major loss.

As we climb the spiral staircase, we may come to realize that our grieving has a rhythm that we should not ignore.

Grieving a delicate loss requires a delicate balancing act. After the initial overwhelming shock of a loss, we eventually realize, we have to pay our bills, raise our children, and get back to taking care of ourselves.

We each must discover the specifics of what works best for us, but it will require a delicate balancing act between working on accepting the past and choosing to return to the present.

In summary, grief work involves two seemingly opposing tasks. One requires working through the pain and meaninglessness triggered by the loss, while the other involves finding our way back to life with new meaning and purpose as a result of the loss.

Transforming the senselessness of traumatic loss into sacred pain, lies at the very heart of grieving.

Emotional Intelligence, Grief, and Two Kinds of Emotional Pain : Counselor Carl

Emotional pain has two faces. First, there is the pain of loss. The second kind of emotional pain is caused by resisting the pain of loss.

So, losses cause emotional pain, and grieving is the process we go through to overcome the resistance to accepting the loss.

Thus, the ability to grieve is possibly the most important skill of emotional intelligence.

Loss is inevitable. So, if we expect life to always go our way, we will be miserable. Skillfully accepting life's losses is the path to serenity.

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Winter

Winter is a time to reflect and meditate on your life.
The Winter season is a time for self-reflection, planning, and hibernation. It encapsulates moments of your life when you began to withdraw emotionally from the world and from your circumstances.

The calm, still beauty of the winter months offers quiet downtime for personal reflection and healing meditation - time to reassess and count the blessings in our lives.

It’s a time of turning inward. It’s a time of rest.
Ask Spirit to direct your eyes to the ways he is working in the small areas of your life. Winter is a time when the inside can be nourished even when what is outside feels barren.

Quotes:

If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant. If we did not taste adversity, then prosperity would not be so welcome. – Anne Bradstreet

In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. -Albert Camus

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https://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-your-negative-emotions-are-trying-to-tell-you/

Quotes for today

1. Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.

    -Jack Kornfield

2. Know that you’re putting in the effort. Know that if things are supposed to work out they will work out. Find a mantra.
My mantra/affirmation:
All is well.
Everything is working for my highest good.
Out of this situation only good will come.
I am safe.

3. When God closes one door in our lives, He opens another.

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Gratitude:

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How to Choose Peace When You’re Under Pressure : tiny buddha

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-choose-peace-when-youre-under-pressure/

How to Choose Peace When You’re Under Pressure:

Now, I accept that this is pressure, and it isn’t helping. Now, I know that my thinking patterns and actions can either bring more pressure or more peace. And now, I truly believe that I have the power to choose which way it goes even when nothing else is in my control.

Which leads me to the hardest part of choosing a more peaceful way through: the choice.

I’m the only one who can grant myself permission to change, and it’s me who chooses peace or pressure. 

I’m learning that taking the peaceful path means changing the whole process to one of compassion, not criticism.

No matter how much pressure you’re under or where it stems from, you can find a more peaceful way through it with your own compassion.

Here’s how:

- Learn your personal early warning signs and start to label that internal experience as pressure.

- When you’re under pressure, validate your feelings with statements like you’re under pressure right now and this feeling makes sense.

- Remind yourself of your true priorities, your strengths, and the choices you can make.

- Take one thing off the agenda. Extend a deadline. Tackle something small and savour crossing it off the list. Take a walk and fill yourself with awe. Whatever you do, remember that the bravest thing isn’t always the biggest or the boldest but the most authentic.

Practice these steps from a place of love and treat every time the pressure returns, because it will, as another moment to renew your commitment to finding the most peaceful way through.

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An ENFP’s Guide to Getting Out of Your Head and Into Reality:

A New Color Theory

In a slight panic, I glanced around the room and saw the red, velvet curtains on the stage. I thought of everything I could that was red and vividly pictured each one in my mind. Once the color red was exhausted, I moved on to purple and followed the same process. I found that this kept my thoughts occupied on inconsequential things instead of spiraling into the emotional territory of a 17 year old thinking of moving far away from everything she knew.

Awareness For the Win

I have found this works best while sitting. Start by taking deep breaths and focus in on your body. Similar to progressive muscle relaxation, start from the bottom of your body and work your way up. What do your feet feel like against the floor? How about your legs or bum against the seat of the chair? Are the muscles in your back tight? Does your skin feel cool in the breeze? Focusing your attention on your body gives you the opportunity to ground your inner thoughts without completely distracting yourself. This is quite helpful in a situation you must see through to the end.

Out of Doors, Out of Mind

If ever I got too anxious and wrapped up in my thoughts, I immediately grabbed my shoes and coat (I went to school in the snow) and tromped around outside. I found inner clarity as I moved around and gained an increased ability to focus when I returned.

Tangible Tokens

Have five items on hand, one for each physical sense. Keep a photo that speaks to you, whether it is calming or entertaining is your choice. Have lotion, perfume, or something that smells nice to engage your sense of smell. Make sure you have access to some sort of music, talk, podcast, or other auditory stimulant. Don’t forget something to eat! My sister is particularly fond of mints, I prefer chewing gum. Lastly, hold a bit of cloth or something textured to capture your sense of touch. In focusing one by one on each of your senses, you may accomplish the grounding sensation discussed previously.

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An ENFP’s Guide to Goal-Setting

https://www.truity.com/blog/enfps-guide-goal-setting

An ENFP’s Guide to Goal-Setting:

Flexibility isn’t Just for Yogis

When considering goals, choose an end result and filter down. What’s the bottom line or end result you want to achieve? What does that look like to you? What steps can you take to achieve this goal?

As long as you’re still headed in the right direction for your goal, switching tactics is a-okay and may even save the longevity of your focus. Allow yourself to be flexible when executing the details of a goal, so long as you don’t lose sight of the bottom line.

If you find you’re continually giving yourself an out, take some introspective time to see why and what you need to tweak.

And Categories Aren’t Just for Jeopardy!

Set those big picture goals in categories. Write them down so you don’t lose track. Your priorities will rise to the surface as you consider each outcome.

Keep some kind of record if you choose to set goals this way to make sure nothing slips through the cracks.

Check-in So You Don’t Check Out

I believe that one reason New Year’s Resolutions don’t often stick is because we make them at one point in the year and never bother to check-in and account for the changes that normally happen in our lives. The same applies to any type of goal.

I would encourage you to take any long-term goals you have and set a reminder to check-in. Use summer time, beginning of the school year, your birthday—any checkpoints along the year will do.

As long as I hit that check-point, I’ll be on track to reach my goal by the end of the year.

Set a reminder for a future date and never miss a self check-in again.

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How good are you being alone?

Quote:
"Most of man's misery is derived by his inability to sit quietly in a room by himself."
- Blaise Pascale

Make more time to be alone.

Make the time and develop the ability to like yourself more.

"Life's greatest betrayal is not knowing who you truly are."

"The way to heal a wound, is to feel a wound."

"A great life has times out in the world, and periods alone in the wilderness."

"It starts with getting to know who you truly are."

"Being alone is about pondering and reflecting on your mortality."

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Five general reading techniques:

1. Pre-reading.
priming your brain.

2. Highlighting.
read the text before you start marking it.

3. Take notes after you read.

4. Summarize what you read.

5. Seek out additional sources that complement the book.

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