Sunday, August 3
Thursday, July 17
Ismael Gomez III: 10 Things Men Do That Women Regret Ignoring (Major Red Flags)
10 Things Men Do That Women Regret Ignoring (Major Red Flags)
1. Hot & Cold
2. Mirroring
3. Gaslighting
4. Isolation
5. He's too busy
6. Free therapy
7. High-value man, Low-value partner
8. Love bombing
9. Superiority complex
10. He has no clear goals
Tam Kaur: it’s time YOU became the center of your own universe | detachment, inner peace, & true confidence
It’s time YOU became the center of your own universe | detachment, inner peace, & true confidence
Decentering Everyone and Taking Control of Your Life
You are allowed to outgrow, and evolve people from your past, even the kindest, nicest, most supportive people. If the energy no longer feels aligned, you are not obligated to give other people access to you, and your life, for any longer than you feel comfortable doing so.
Decentering friends is all about removing the codependence, and emotional reliance on people, that no longer serve this current, brand new, upgraded version of you.
It's about taking up space, and being authentically you, even if it doesn't fit in the box that other people have kept you in, in their minds, even if it makes them question if you are who they thought you once were, even if it means outgrowing the version of you that they grew to love, and stepping out of that space.
People who require you to overexplain yourself, were never really your people in the first place.
Centering Yourself and Becoming Self-Obsessed
1. Trusting in yourself above others.
It's about elevating your energy, and trusting in yourself above others.
Every single day starts with, "How do I want to feel today? What kind of day do I want to create for myself? What do I think? What do I want?"
2. Health is the bare minimum.
3. Reject trends, & other people's ideas of what a good time actually means.
Solo dating, quality time, and self-discovery helps you avoid all of that waste of time.
Everything in your life moves in Divine timing.
4. Managing your Energy.
Whether there are arguments in the room, or chaos, you are not absorbing any of that, because your energy, and your intentions, are not an energetic match for it.
Create your own standards, whether it be an app, a situation, a job, or the room you walk into.
5. Decentering your Past.
Stop focusing on the negatives.
Start thinking: How good can it get for me?
What is she doing? How can I get there? What does my future look like? How can I make it better than I've ever imagined?
You just have to step into her energy.
Homework
#1 The DailyQuestions
How would the most ideal version of myself act today?
How do I want to center myself today, or be the most self-obsessed version of myself today?
What kind of day, or week do I want to create for myself, right now?
How do I want to ensure I'm feeling at the end of the day?
What is the outcome I want from the event I'm attending?
#2 Decenter your phone
#3 Create a weekly ceremony of self-love
Sunday, June 8
Heidi Priebe: The Wisdom Of ENFP & INFP Fantasies
What do I fantasise about?
Instead of trying to either play out, or discard your fantasies as an Fi user, try just looking at what is this fantasy telling me about the self-work that I need to do.
Our fantasies are meant to tell us something about what's missing.
It's communicating pivotal information.
Who are you in the fantasy?
What's different?
trait.
Don't discount the power of those fantasies as Fi users.
As Fi users, that is the pinnacle of self-awareness, and it's the brilliance of this function.
Saturday, June 7
Heidi Priebe: ENFPs: How NOT To Approach Self-Discipline
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The same will go for you once you find a goal or an endpoint that you want to get to that your Fi feels very aligned to.
If you can get clear on what your introverted feeling wants, your Te will step up to help you out, so will your Si.
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If you feel like you have so much potential, and yet you simply cannot discipline yourself enough, to get to where you want to get to, consider what might be missing from your extroverted intuition, or your introverted feeling, that isn't locking you in to that action state.
It might just be you not working with your natural energy, and not orienting yourself in the direction that you truly want to go in.
Thursday, May 29
Teal Swan: What Is a Negative Loyalty Pattern?
What Is a Negative Loyalty Pattern?
Negative Loyalty (Pattern):
It's a belief, and/or behaviour that keeps you aligned with, in confluence with, experiencing closeness with, and allied to another person, most especially your early caregivers, such as your parents, but that is detrimental to your well-being, and best interests.
Loyalty patterns can take on any form.
There are ancestral loyalty patterns.
Many physical ailments are loyalty patterns.
What unites all of these forms that negative loyalty can take, is that at their root, these are things that do not benefit a person, but they keep a person in a state of allegiance to, and confluence with someone that matters a great deal to them, most especially a parent.
Take the detrimental pattern and imagine changing it for the better, and ask yourself, who would have a problem with me now. What would happen, and why?
Negative loyalty patterns very often fall into the category of self-sabotaging behaviours.
All self-sabotaging behaviours, ultimately serve a self-preserving, self-protecting function.
When we look directly at the fact that we are maintaining a detrimental belief, or continuing a detrimental behaviour, so that we can stay in allegiance, in confluence with a specific person, or group of people. And when we see that doing so keeps us from seeing more of the reality of them, and more of the reality of our relationship with them.
It's only then that we can make a truly conscious choice, about whether to choose to maintain this way of being loyal to them, no matter the consequences of doing so, or whether we are going to choose to adopt a new belief, and a new behaviour despite the consequences we may face by doing so.
Consciously choose consequences.
It is not love to want someone to do something detrimental to themselves so that we can feel loved.
Nor is it love to maintain our own, as well as another person's dysfunction, so as to prove our loyalty to them.
Negative loyalty patterns prevent our progress as individuals.
They prevent our progress as a society, and they prevent our progress as a species.
So, be part of the change today by identifying your negative loyalty patterns, and choose another way to show your loyalty to those you love, and to those who love you.
Thursday, May 15
Heidi Priebe: 8 Unexpected Gifts Of The ENFP Personality Type
8 Unexpected Gifts Of The ENFP Personality Type
1. The ability to navigate uncertainty.
2. Our ability to observe the mind.
3. Questioning convention.
4. Spiritual sensitivity.
We have a sensitive barometer to the direction that our life is heading in.
5. Messy empathy.
6. Critical thinking.
Your ability to think critically about any issue that comes your way is one of the most valuable things that you have.
7. Influential about their passions.
8. Down-to-earth communication.
Marrying the abstract with concrete is such a virtue of extroverted intuition.
Saturday, May 10
Saturday, April 26
Tam Kaur: how to stop being a victim | mindset shifts to take control of your life & cut out the BS!
1. No more "Why"?
aka not putting meaning behind everything.
Replace it by asking, "what's next"?
You are in control of your reality.
2. Character switching.
Imagine yourself five years from now.
You do not identify with the person you used to be.
You know how movies end, and how books end.
3. Take accountability.
Stepping into your Higher self.
You are always the hero of your story.
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1. Practice opposite action.
2. Create a victory log.
3. Challenge the why me narrative.
How can I utilise this experience to grow into the best version of myself?
Saturday, April 12
Tam Kaur: REALITY CHECK: this is why people dislike you for no reason (and how to deal with it)
People dislike you for no reason, because you are too high up in their mental hierarchy, and they need to take you down.
These people don't consciously know it, this is an entirely subconscious thing, but they think that you are better than them.
They hate the fact that you are better.
This is clearly not about you.
You are not seeing it this way, but this is how they are viewing.
It's not about you, but it's what you represent.
Unhealed people are limited in their mindset, and viewpoints.
Jealousy stems from self-perception, and how they treat themselves.
Just because you are not comparing yourself to other people, doesn't mean they're not comparing themselves to you.
Monday, April 7
Tam Kaur: how to deal with TOXIC PEOPLE | 9 signs of a toxic friend and how to cut them out of your life!
how to deal with TOXIC PEOPLE | 9 signs of a toxic friend and how to cut them out of your life!
Signs of a toxic friend
There are nine types of toxic friends.
1. The Thief
This person wants to steal your entire identity.
Why? Because they are that jealous of you.
This is the most dangerous toxic friend to have.
You have all of this negative energy, and evil eye in your very own inner circle.
2. The Snake
This person is discussing the inner details of your life with everybody else they know as well. They're just not letting you know about it.
3. The Energy Vampire
This person drains you, always complaining, always has something bad going on, always needs your advice, and literally uses you as their personal therapist.
Any time you hang out with this person, you go home drained, and exhausted.
4. The Puppet Master
This person wants to control every single thing around them, and especially you.
They act like you can't do anything right, and they are actively trying to change you into being someone who can suit their needs.
5. The Leech
Uses you for your resources, wastes your time, asks for endless favours, never pays back money on time.
The energy is never reciprocated.
You are always giving more to them.
And they just take, take, take, take, take, and never give back.
6. The Silent Spy
They see what you do. They are watching your every move.
They don't resent you when they see you win, they feel uncomfortable.
Having this person, and energy in your life can be very damaging.
7. The Fraud
This person will flirt with your partner, they'll secretly hope for you guys to breakup so they can jump on them right after, they intentionally give you bad advice, they spill your secrets to everybody, they sabotage you, they steal your ideas, they invite everyone to a party, and conveniently leaves you out, but they're super nice to your face.
They are probably always super happy, and excited around you, always wants to hang out, but the second you leave, they might as well be your enemy.
8. The Bad Influence
They encourage you to go crazy, dismiss your responsibilities, they want you to make risky choices, they introduce you to bad people, you always end up in unsafe situations with them.
This person is not to be trusted, and they will affect where you go in life.
This friend wants you to lose in life.
They are trying to drag you down with them.
They passionately live such a low vibrational life, and they want to you to do it with them.
9. The Clueless
They are just a mess.
This person is probably hella sweet, with good intentions, but they are dragging you down.
And this is gonna have a toxic effect on you, and your life.
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How toxic friends affect the trajectory of your life
Bad energy is so contagious, you need to be extra picky with who you are surrounding yourself with.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Does my mindset align with their mindset?
Are we uplifting and inspiring each other?
Write down a list of your friendship standards.
(Hold the people in your life accordingly.)
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The longer that you tolerate these toxic people, the more you are pushing away good energy, good opportunities, good people that align with you.
You are wasting precious opportunities to make new friends, to start a new routine, engage in different life practices, to put yourself in rooms with more positive people, and to become the person you want to be, with the life you want to have.
You are better off by yourself than with a shitty friend.
You have to be patient with yourself.
Friday, April 4
Jillz Guerin: 10 Tiny Micro Habits of Women Who ALWAYS Get What They Want
10 Tiny Micro Habits of Women Who ALWAYS Get What They Want
Saying yes to everything is a sign that you are living in scarcity.
Do I actually wanna do this?
2. Why not me?
3. They don’t stop at I don’t know.
4. They actually ask for what they want.
2. Why not me?
3. They don’t stop at I don’t know.
4. They actually ask for what they want.
If you never ask, you will never get it.
Before you ask, pause, and ask yourself, "How would I phrase this if I already believed the answer could be yes?"
5. Don’t speak what you don’t want multiplied.
It's about being intentional with your words.
Be mindful of your words, they have more power than you realise.
6. Wear a crown.
6. Wear a crown.
I belong here energy.
7. Observe what you want.
7. Observe what you want.
8. Treat money like it loves you.
Money is sacred.
It's one of the things that takes care of me.
I am grateful for money. Thank you for supporting me.
9. It’s burnt toast.
9. It’s burnt toast.
Women who get what they want, they don't take rejection personally. They don't make it mean anything about them.
Maybe something tiny, and frustrating actually protected you, or redirected you.
10. Set up tomorrow’s success.
10. Set up tomorrow’s success.
Night rituals.
It's about doing what works.
A few intentional minutes at night, can make your entire next day feel so much smoother.
Consistency beats perfection.
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