How To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others : Terri

God said, "I made you exactly the way I wanted you. Be yourself and you'll be embraced."

A little bit more.
Do a little bit more.
People are rewarded in public for what they practice in private.
Practice. Work hard behind the scenes.
Your confidence will soar to new levels, because you put in the work.

Keep going! Your failures don't define you! by Gaur Gopal Das

When God says yes to your prayer, He gives you what you want.
But when He says no your prayer, He has something better for you.
But when He says wait to your prayer, He gives you the best.

No one in this world is useless.

Until then you need to believe in yourself.
You need someone who can believe in you, and keep you going, till you see your day.

How to STUDY When You DON'T FEEL LIKE IT!

Core philosophy:
Systems produce results.

How you can create a system?

Step 1: Audit yourself.
Accessing your current state.
One size does not fit all.
When did you try to study, and when did you begin feeling like you were just over it?
Doing this for a couple days will give you a better view of your current systems and pain points.
Practice meditation. Journal.

Step 2: Use the power of language.
The power of language is most important part of this entire process. This is the foundation of the entire system.

Step 3: Lower the activation energy.
Starting is the hardest part. How do we make that easier?
1. Create small sub-tasks.
2. Decrease the time commitment.
3. Choose easy tasks to build momentum.
4. Lower your expectations. [<3]
This one applies to creative work.

Step 4: Add some spice.
1. Vary  the method of studying or the subject matter.
2. Incentivize yourself with rewards.
3. Move.
    i. Walking or some light exercise.
    ii. Moving to a new location.

Thank you :)

How to Test Your Emotional Maturity

How to Test Your Emotional Maturity

We can make use of a single deceptively simple question that quickly gets to the core of our underlying emotional age.

When someone on whom we depend emotionally lets us down, disappoints us, or leaves us hanging and uncertain, what is our characteristic way of responding?

There are three methods which indicate emotionally immature behaviour (we might grade ourselves on a scale of 1-10 according to our propensities).
1. We might sulk.
2. We might get furious.
3. We might get cold.

These three responses point us in turn to the three markers of emotional maturity:
1. The capacity to explain.
2. The capacity to stay calm.
The mature like themselves enough not to suspect that everyone would have a good reason to mock and slander them.
3. The capacity to be vulnerable.

In turn these three traits belong to what we can call the three cardinal virtues of emotional maturity:
1. Communication
2. Trust
3. Vulnerability

At least half of us weren't brought up in the land of emotional literacy. We may just never have heard adults around us speaking an emotionally mature dialect.

So we may need to go right back to school and spend time learning, with great patience and faith, the beautiful and complex grammar of the language of emotional adulthood.

This is How I Stopped Being So Shy : Terri

Three powerful ways to stop being shy:

1. Lead yourself.

Success habits.

2. Encourage yourself.

Be your own cheerleader.
David encouraged himself in God.

i. I am healthy, young, and energetic.
ii. I am self-disciplined.
iii. My family members and friends are loving and supportive.
iv. I have completed my nanodegree easily and on-time.
v. I am employed as an Android Developer.
vi. I am balanced.
vii. I am qualified by God.
viii. I am confident to build android apps.

You've gotta give yourself a pep talk.
If you change what you're saying, you'll change what you're seeing.

3. Focus yourself.

It's better to be world class at a few things; than mediocre at most things.

James Cameron

Tom Monaghan - Domino's Pizza

Bill Gates

Boundaries : Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

My three lessons:

Boundaries are not built in a vacuum. We need bonding and support before we build boundaries.

Good boundaries prevent resentment. Giving is good. Make sure, however that it is the proper amount for your situation and resources.

You will begin to see that taking responsibility for yourself is healthy, and you will begin to understand that taking responsibility for other adults is destructive.
(pg. 305)

The goal is to have a character structure that has boundaries and that can set limits on self and others at appropriate times.
(pg. 310)

Consequences give some good barbs to fences. They let people know the seriousness of the trespass and the seriousness of our respect for ourselves.
(pg. 40)

Friends

Chandler's Blooper Reel

Ross' Blooper Reel
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The wise Chandler - Best Moments

Joey Tribbiani Hilarious Moments!

Phoebe's funniest moments

Favorite Rachel Moments

Favorite Ross Moments
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Top 15 Funniest Friends Moments

Master This to Master Life : Gaur Gopal Das

Martina Navratilova

Internal dialouge

The reason why you are distracted : Dandapani

Crucial Conversations : Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler

My lessons:

This is the first principle of dialouge -- Start with your own heart.