Jillz Guerin: A REALISTIC Guide to Living a SOFTER LIFE *how I got my life back*

A REALISTIC Guide to Living a SOFTER LIFE 

1. Spending more on ease.

You might need to re-examine your relationship with money, and your relationship to your self-worth.

If you want to start living a softer life, then you need to remember that prioritising your ease and your comfort, and spending a little bit of money on that is not always a bad thing.

2. You don't need to do everything yourself.

Doing everything yourself doesn't make you a better person.

It's a very valuable skill to be able to ask for help when it's needed.

If you feel overwhelmed, ask for help, hire help, try to take something off your plate.

You don't get a medal for doing the most.

3. Efficiency and impact, is more important than hours worked.

Drop the struggle.

4. Start seeing the beauty in the journey.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

5. You don't have to know everything.

I don't have to have an opinion about everything going on in the world.

I don't need to have a thought about everything.

It can get really overwhelming.

If you want to cultivate more of the soft life, let your brain chill.

6. You are in control of your life.

If you're at a social function, and you don't want to be there any more, you can leave.

Living a soft life means taking control of your life, and prioritising what's important to you, and what brings you peace, and you are the only person who can do that.

7. Cycle Syncing

Syncing your life to your cycle.

I don't force myself to be the same everyday.

I don't force myself to show up the same everyday, because that is entirely unrealistic, and all it's gonna do is burn you out.

We need balance to have that peace and ease in our life.

8. Don't let the good things make you feel uncomfortable.

We self-sabotage our own happiness and our own inner peace.

Being comfortable and familiar with things being easy, and almost start expecting things to be easy.

Teal Swan: The Most Important Element of Compatibility in Relationships

Compatibility is when two things are able to exist or occur in a state of harmony and without conflict.
But the most important element of compatibility is workability or lack thereof.
The most important part of accessing compatibility is to figure out what is and what isn’t workable.
When something is workable, it is flexible, it’s negotiable, it’s pliable, it’s adaptable, it can be influenced, folded, or changed, so that it produces the desired effects or the desired results.
Some things about us and our life are unworkable like solid steel, and they need to be that way for the sake of our well-being and other things are workable like modelling clay and they need to be for the sake of our well-being.

Because all people are different, one person might exhibit workability relative to something whereas another person can’t be workable relative to that same thing.

Workability and lack thereof doesn’t only apply to romantic partnerships, it applies to other relationships as well such as friendships, and work relationships, and family relationships, etc.

Knowing what is and what is not workable about you is the most important part of accessing compatibility, because these areas of unworkability are what causes extreme disharmony in a relationship, and they are what breaks a relationship apart.

Teal Swan: How Your Values Can Ruin Your Life

Baked into every value is a positive and a negative potential. 

And this means that a person's deepest value can become their greatest weakness, in fact it can become their very downfall.

Every person's got a con with their name written on it.

There's a perfect con out there for every person on this Earth.

That perfect con will always involve your top values.

Each value might have several potential upsides, and several potential downsides.

Become aware as possible that all of these things in life, including your values, come with shadows potentially.

Ensure that you don't fall into them, and course-correct if you do.

Teal Swan: A Romantic Relationship Is NOT All There Is

Teal Swan: Why You Should Throw The Idea of Work Life Balance Out the Window

Teal Swan: Underrated Tool For Self-Awareness

Teal Swan: Urgent! Deal With Your Resistance Before You Do Anything Else

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If we haven’t created the life that we want to create, there must be an aspect of ourselves that is actually in opposition to it.

Remember, If you aren’t getting anywhere with something, it’s because there is resistance involved.

Zoom out to see the resistance and resolve it in whatever way you can.

Everyone experiences resistance.