“You HAVE to Make a CHOICE: Am I Going to SHOW UP?” - Brené Brown
Brené Brown's Top 10 Rules For Succcess:
1. Show up.
Three things shifted in me:
i. It's not about winning, it's not about losing, it's about showing up and being seen.
ii. If you've committed to creating in your life, you will get your ass kicked.
iii. If you are also not in the arena and getting your ass kicked, I'm not interested in your feedback.
2. Cultivate Authenticity.
Letting go of what people think.
Authenticity is a practice.
3. Set Boundaries.
Boundary is simply what's ok and what's not ok.
Generosity cannot exist without boundaries.
They are the key to self-love, and they are the key to treating others with love and kindness.
4. Actively practice gratitude.
Practicing gratitude invites joy into our lives.
A tangible gratitude practice.
It's not joy that makes us grateful, it''s gratitude that makes us joyful.
5. Embrace vulnerability.
Vulnerability is the centre of difficult emotion, but it's also the birthplace of every positive emotion that we need in our lives, love, belonging, joy, empathy.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation, change.
6. Let go of perfectionism.
Its fear.
I call perfectionism the 20 ton shield. We carry it around thinking its gonna protect us from being hurt but protects us from being seen.
7. Explore your emotions.
Shame drives two tapes,
1. Not good enough, &
2. Who do you think you are?
When something hard happens and we're captured by something difficult, our emotions get the first crack at making sense of something.
Stop and say, 'wait a minute, what's actually going on here, what am I feeling, what do I know for sure?'.
Recognize you've been snagged by emotion and get curious about it.
What am I feeling and what do I need to know more about?
8. Build shame resilience.
Shame cannot hold on when we name it.
Men and women with high levels of shame resilience, use the word and talk about the emotion.
9. Risk failure.
There is no innovation and creativity without failure.
10. Don't have any regrets.
What if I would've shown up? What would've been different?
Bonus: Let yourself be seen.
We live in a vulnerable world.
There's another way:
1. to let ourselves be seen,
2. to love with our whole hearts, even though there is no guarantee.
3. to practice gratitude and joy.
4. to believe that we're enough.
