Tam Kaur: how to stop being a victim | mindset shifts to take control of your life & cut out the BS!

1. No more "Why"?

aka not putting meaning behind everything.

Replace it by asking, "what's next"?

You are in control of your reality.

2. Character switching.

Imagine yourself five years from now.

You do not identify with the person you used to be.

You know how movies end, and how books end.

3. Take accountability.

Stepping into your Higher self.

You are always the hero of your story.

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1. Practice opposite action.

2. Create a victory log.

3. Challenge the why me narrative.

How can I utilise this experience to grow into the best version of myself?

Carl Jung Reveals the Real Reason You Struggle with Self-Sabotage

Tam Kaur: REALITY CHECK: this is why people dislike you for no reason (and how to deal with it)

People dislike you for no reason, because you are too high up in their mental hierarchy, and they need to take you down.

These people don't consciously know it, this is an entirely subconscious thing, but they think that you are better than them.

They hate the fact that you are better.

This is clearly not about you.

You are not seeing it this way, but this is how they are viewing.

It's not about you, but it's what you represent.

Unhealed people are limited in their mindset, and viewpoints.

Jealousy stems from self-perception, and how they treat themselves.

Just because you are not comparing yourself to other people, doesn't mean they're not comparing themselves to you.

Tam Kaur: how to deal with TOXIC PEOPLE | 9 signs of a toxic friend and how to cut them out of your life!

how to deal with TOXIC PEOPLE | 9 signs of a toxic friend and how to cut them out of your life!

Signs of a toxic friend

There are nine types of toxic friends.

1. The Thief

This person wants to steal your entire identity. 

Why? Because they are that jealous of you.

This is the most dangerous toxic friend to have.

You have all of this negative energy, and evil eye in your very own inner circle.

2. The Snake

This person is discussing the inner details of your life with everybody else they know as well. They're just not letting you know about it.

3. The Energy Vampire

This person drains you, always complaining, always has something bad going on, always needs your advice, and literally uses you as their personal therapist.

Any time you hang out with this person, you go home drained, and exhausted.

4. The Puppet Master

This person wants to control every single thing around them, and especially you.

They act like you can't do anything right, and they are actively trying to change you into being someone who can suit their needs.

5. The Leech

Uses you for your resources, wastes your time, asks for endless favours, never pays back money on time.

The energy is never reciprocated.

You are always giving more to them.

And they just take, take, take, take, take, and never give back.

6. The Silent Spy

They see what you do. They are watching your every move.

They don't resent you when they see you win, they feel uncomfortable.

Having this person, and energy in your life can be very damaging.

7. The Fraud

This person will flirt with your partner, they'll secretly hope for you guys to breakup so they can jump on them right after, they intentionally give you bad advice, they spill your secrets to everybody, they sabotage you, they steal your ideas, they invite everyone to a party, and conveniently leaves you out, but they're super nice to your face.

They are probably always super happy, and excited around you, always wants to hang out, but the second you leave, they might as well be your enemy. 

8. The Bad Influence

They encourage you to go crazy, dismiss your responsibilities, they want you to make risky choices, they introduce you to bad people, you always end up in unsafe situations with them.

This person is not to be trusted, and they will affect where you go in life.

This friend wants you to lose in life.

They are trying to drag you down with them.

They passionately live such a low vibrational life, and they want to you to do it with them.

9. The Clueless

They are just a mess.

This person is probably hella sweet, with good intentions, but they are dragging you down.

And this is gonna have a toxic effect on you, and your life.

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How toxic friends affect the trajectory of your life

Bad energy is so contagious, you need to be extra picky with who you are surrounding yourself with.

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Does my mindset align with their mindset?

Are we uplifting and inspiring each other?

Write down a list of your friendship standards.

(Hold the people in your life accordingly.)

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The longer that you tolerate these toxic people, the more you are pushing away good energy, good opportunities, good people that align with you.

You are wasting precious opportunities to make new friends, to start a new routine, engage in different life practices, to put yourself in rooms with more positive people, and to become the person you want to be, with the life you want to have.

You are better off by yourself than with a shitty friend.

You have to be patient with yourself.

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Jillz Guerin: 10 Tiny Micro Habits of Women Who ALWAYS Get What They Want

10 Tiny Micro Habits of Women Who ALWAYS Get What They Want

1. Pause before saying yes.

Saying yes to everything is a sign that you are living in scarcity.

Do I actually wanna do this?

2. Why not me?

3. They don’t stop at I don’t know.

4. They actually ask for what they want.

If you never ask, you will never get it.

Before you ask, pause, and ask yourself, "How would I phrase this if I already believed the answer could be yes?"

5. Don’t speak what you don’t want multiplied.

It's about being intentional with your words.

Be mindful of your words, they have more power than you realise.

6. Wear a crown.

I belong here energy.

7. Observe what you want.

8. Treat money like it loves you.

Money is sacred.

It's one of the things that takes care of me.

I am grateful for money. Thank you for supporting me.

9. It’s burnt toast.

Women who get what they want, they don't take rejection personally. They don't make it mean anything about them.

Maybe something tiny, and frustrating actually protected you, or redirected you.

10. Set up tomorrow’s success.

Night rituals.

It's about doing what works.

A few intentional minutes at night, can make your entire next day feel so much smoother.

Consistency beats perfection.