What Is a Negative Loyalty Pattern?
Negative Loyalty (Pattern):
It's a belief, and/or behaviour that keeps you aligned with, in confluence with, experiencing closeness with, and allied to another person, most especially your early caregivers, such as your parents, but that is detrimental to your well-being, and best interests.
Loyalty patterns can take on any form.
There are ancestral loyalty patterns.
Many physical ailments are loyalty patterns.
What unites all of these forms that negative loyalty can take, is that at their root, these are things that do not benefit a person, but they keep a person in a state of allegiance to, and confluence with someone that matters a great deal to them, most especially a parent.
Take the detrimental pattern and imagine changing it for the better, and ask yourself, who would have a problem with me now. What would happen, and why?
Negative loyalty patterns very often fall into the category of self-sabotaging behaviours.
All self-sabotaging behaviours, ultimately serve a self-preserving, self-protecting function.
When we look directly at the fact that we are maintaining a detrimental belief, or continuing a detrimental behaviour, so that we can stay in allegiance, in confluence with a specific person, or group of people. And when we see that doing so keeps us from seeing more of the reality of them, and more of the reality of our relationship with them.
It's only then that we can make a truly conscious choice, about whether to choose to maintain this way of being loyal to them, no matter the consequences of doing so, or whether we are going to choose to adopt a new belief, and a new behaviour despite the consequences we may face by doing so.
Consciously choose consequences.
It is not love to want someone to do something detrimental to themselves so that we can feel loved.
Nor is it love to maintain our own, as well as another person's dysfunction, so as to prove our loyalty to them.
Negative loyalty patterns prevent our progress as individuals.
They prevent our progress as a society, and they prevent our progress as a species.
So, be part of the change today by identifying your negative loyalty patterns, and choose another way to show your loyalty to those you love, and to those who love you.
