Acute grief is when grief dominates our consciousness, and it may be all we can do, just to get through the moment, hour, or day.
Subtle grief occupies the times between periods of acute grief when we are functioning once again, but the shadow of loss is always at our side.
Eventually, however, we may come to realize that we're dealing with something we may have never experienced before - living life through the prism of major loss.
As we climb the spiral staircase, we may come to realize that our grieving has a rhythm that we should not ignore.
Grieving a delicate loss requires a delicate balancing act. After the initial overwhelming shock of a loss, we eventually realize, we have to pay our bills, raise our children, and get back to taking care of ourselves.
We each must discover the specifics of what works best for us, but it will require a delicate balancing act between working on accepting the past and choosing to return to the present.
In summary, grief work involves two seemingly opposing tasks. One requires working through the pain and meaninglessness triggered by the loss, while the other involves finding our way back to life with new meaning and purpose as a result of the loss.
Transforming the senselessness of traumatic loss into sacred pain, lies at the very heart of grieving.
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